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My boyfriend told me that he loved me this morning. he even said that he loved us. Now he's telling me that he kissed his ex-girlfriend about 4 times. I love him and I know that he loves me, I see it in his eyes and hear it in his voice but our distance seems to have gotten too hard (1010 miles). any advice?

Communication is very important in a long distance relationship. Just remember that sometimes he needs his space and he might be busy if he doesn’t talk to you. 

The best thing to do is to talk to him about why he’s been kissing his ex and such. Try to clear up the situation before it gets progressively worse. 


so there is a guy that i'm really in to and we have been hanging out a lot and he recently kissed me and i'm realizing my feelings for him and i know him feelings for me are strong too. there are 2 issues: my friends hate him (for a reason i don't know) and he is moving very soon (within 2 months) and i don't know if i'm okay with starting something if he is just going to leave..what do you think i should do? thank you

It seems like a very big risk to start something only to have it end with him having to move? Unless you start a long distance relationship which can and will be very difficult. If you’re willing to date him with the time you have left, then go for it. Only after that, should you decide if whether or not you want to turn it into a long distance relationship. You should have your friend tell you why they hate him. If being with him is going to make you happy then your friend should be happy for you as well.


My issue: I first fell in love with a guy who lived in a different state. We would have dated, we were so close, but the circumstances just wouldn't allow it. Then, as I got over him, my friend, who lives in-state with me, came into my life and we began dating. But I still have feelings deep down, and perhaps stronger ones, toward the guy who is out of state. What am I to do at this point?

It is up to you to decide whether or not if you should stay with the person you are with now, or break up with him to pursue the guy who lives in a different state in hopes that the circumstances that wouldn’t allow you two to be together would not interfere a second time. Long distant relationships are very difficult and requires a load of trust and dedication. If you know without a doubt that he’d give it his all then you could consider it? But if any part of you thinks it won’t last or what didn’t allow it before just won’t allow it again then I would try to get over him, or you could just see how things go with your current relationship. You never know, and maybe your feelings for the in-state person will grow.


I used to have a best friend like that. I met her in kindergarten and we were always together. We have always been in the same school. ALWAYS. Ever since kindergarten up until I moved to Maryland so that made it even more traumatic not being with her as well. But we have drifted apart and we never really talk anymore. I do online schooling now so I don't get lots of social interaction and I am not an outgoing person at all. My sister was picking fights for no reason.

Friends can come and go but you can and will make more down the road. I had similar problems, but I ended up making friends online from the games that I used to play. We actually became really close and rather than just playing games with each other, we became much more than friends from an online game. Why would she be picking fights for no reason..?


My sister was yelling at me because I wasn't doing my school work even though it's the weekend. She was being extremely rude by holding her hand in front of the screen so I couldn't see it and she was tearing up my drawing papers. Completely destroying my room. It was not a miscommunication at all. I was crying and she was still yelling and trying to pick fights with my other sister too.

I never made a real friend in school until 6th grade. Someone just like me, but when she made more friends and didn’t need me anymore she left. Everyone else just couldn’t and wouldn’t matter. I wanted friends and people were coming to me, but something about everyone made me want nothing to do with them. I just didn’t fit in. I’m also awkward and shy. It wasn’t until 8th grade did I make another friend. My best friend. We had a lot in common and got along very well. But I was stupid and lost her 3 times. 2 Years passed and I’m now involved with a circle of friends right now. The downside is they all go to a different and I’m alone and can only see them if we plan things out, or on weekends, or on breaks. They’ve become closer to me than my parents are. My parents go on lots of business trips and my dad recently came back from 7 months. But he left a month later with my mom this time, so I had to take care of myself but they’ll be back in 2 days actually. I was never close to my family and when I had no friends I turned to hobbies. Are there things you like to do that keep your mind off things? My freshmen year was when the bullying started getting more serious, and racism. But my cousin who is also in my “circle of friends” would comfort me and give me advice. Before my parents left, I spoke to my dad about letting me transfer schools and I nearly broke down crying in front of him while I was explaining to him what school was like for me. I asked him to talk to my mom before they return. I just thought I’d share with you what I went through and am going through right now too. Just don’t ever lose hope. Talk to someone. It can be anybody. Your parents or your sisters. Whether the drawing papers were for school or just for doodling/drawing/whatever she should not have done that. Why was she trying to pick fights?


It didn't go well. I'm the youngest of the three of us. My middle sister got upset with me in the morning and started yelling at me. I got really sad and didn't leave my bed for almost the whole day. Then today I was a little better until my middle sister started to yell at me telling me to do my work. I started to cry and my oldest sister came in. My mom came by to pick up my sisters. I found out that my oldest sister cuts too. My middle sister pretty much hates me for leaving. And I cut again

What part of being in Maryland made you have a break down? Can I ask why you’re being yelled at? Do you think anything has to do with miscommunication? Or just the lack of it. If your sister is mad and hates you for leaving, let her know you’re back. I’m sorry that this is happening to you. I don’t think that it’s your fault that all of this is occurring. You sister shouldn’t hate you just because you left and your middle sister shouldn’t have yelled at you to do your work. She could’ve said it in a nicer way. Try telling her that even though you’re leaving there is always a time that you’ll come back and visit sometime.

 I would go talk to them and tell them how you feel about this whole thing and also listen to their input too. Also, talk to a close friend or family member about your cutting. Cutting doesn’t solve any problems and just causes your more pain and suffering. 

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This is a long story so there will be two parts at least. So My two sisters me and my mom moved to maryland. I hated it there and I had a mental break down. I moved back to Ohio with my dad. My oldest sister has been having anxiety attacks because I wasn't with her when she had a spinal tap. I do online schooling and I was really backed up on work and my dad was yelling at me and I cut. My mom and sisters moved back to Ohio and this weekend was the first time I saw them. To be continued

Please check part 2 


How do you say goodbye to someone you don't really want to lose?

Remind yourself that if it’s for their or your sake, it would be the best thing to do. Sometimes you have to let go of things that you don’t want to lose. However, someday you’ll eventually find someone who could be better and make you happy again. 

Try to also occupy yourself with things that will help ease the pain of saying goodbye to someone. You could hang out with your friends or you could also do things you enjoy doing. 

Thanks for asking c: If you have any questions let me know 


i'm in a long distance relationship and it started off good but now i'm beginning to loose faith and hope. now he hasn't talked to me in a couple days and i don't know why. what should i do?

Don’t start losing hope just yet. Maybe he’s just busy or something and doesn’t have the time to talk to you. I would wait for a little bit and see what happens. Long distance relationships could sometimes be difficult but one of the key things is to have trust, hope, and faith so that the relationship is strong. 

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